School systems and school sports are not what they used to be.
Nowadays it’s all about who you are, what your last name is, who mommy and daddy are, and how much money you have. It’s a sad, sad thing. And people wonder why children don’t even try or are more likely to give up in school. There’s no point when no matter what or how good you do, you’re not going to get any recognition because you do not have the “right” last name or a lot of money.
School sports have gotten ridiculous. It’s no longer about teamwork or having fun. All everyone cares about is winning and making certain people look good. One such sport I’m talking about in particular is basketball. At my old high school, they like to play ‘the name game’. All the “popular” players or those with the right “connections” and those who have a good amount of money were the players who were recognized and given the most playing time. Sure some of those “certain” players were of good skill, luck, and or talent; there were some who had true skill and real talent. These few players got some playing time but should have gotten more.
It’s sad when a child who is all about sports and only works hard in their academics so that they can continue to participate in their sport(s) of choice. When these children who have the love and talent for the game are rejected or are denied their playing time, they often tend to give up in their academics because, for them, there is no point anymore. This, in turn, has an effect on the child’s whole life. They often become depressed and repress their anger. They can become more aggressive and even begin to get involved in less than favorable pastimes/hobbies.
Not only can their academics begin to slip and fail, but these denied players begin to lose their love for the game. It no longer becomes fun and they often start to loathe going to practice. They stop trying hard in games, which will further affect the amount of playing time they will receive. The loss of determination and satisfaction will affect the whole team and even the whole school. It will kill, or at least weaken, many other teammates’ love for the game. One player’s distaste and lack of determination can rub off on the whole team and lead to bad attitudes, less teamwork, and cooperation, and eventually lead to a loss of games for the whole team and school. Schools that are particularly sport orientated, such as my old school, are strongly affected.
While in school, my oldest sister had her share of problems just like everyone else.
Our family wasn’t the happiest and sports were the main aspiration and inspiration to my three siblings and I, especially to my oldest sister and younger brother. My oldest sister was truly an amazing basketball player. She had the talent, skill, ability, and love for the game. It was what kept her going all throughout school. Basketball was her life; it’s all she ever wanted to do. The school we went to was all about the last name.
We didn’t have “the right” last name or the money required to really get any of us into the spotlight or recognition we worked so hard for. God forbid any parent who wasn’t of good money or name say anything to the coach or anything in the crowd, for that matter. My sister was among the best on her team.
She had that special spark, great leadership and teamwork, and skill, but she was often put on the bench for players who had a more favorable last name. Our mother and another parent were speaking in the bleachers one game and a parent of another player overheard. This parent decided that they would find a way to get their child a spot by going to the coach and telling him of my mother and her friend’s conversation and blowing it way out of proportion and making it sound like she was downing the coach. Needless to say, my sister received much less playing time than she had originally got, which wasn’t as much as she deserved.
At first, my sister still kept up with school work and did her best in both sports and academics. Then things became clear to her that it wouldn’t change anything. Another year past and her coach continued to leave her on the bench and even treat her badly during practice, the classroom, and on the court. She began to give up hope that her efforts would do her any good. Her grades began slipping along with her determination and love for the game.
After that, she began to hang out with people who she normally would not have. These other students were into some bad things. Her attitude and actions began to change. She stopped hanging out with her family as much. Her repressed anger began taking its toll on her and her siblings and she’d become violent. She was more depressed and stressed than usual. She began getting into bad situations, such as going to bad parties and hanging out with people drinking alcohol and even doing some drugs.
Basketball was her life and she’d always dreamed of playing in college and possibly going into the WNBA or becoming a basketball coach herself. She lost that sight. She had gotten into some trouble during and after high school. Her health and her concern for her own well being began to fade some as well.
She still has some of her talents, but the strong love for the game was ruined by the schools and coaches she played under. She’s doing well and has gotten away from some of the bad things she had been into, but she doesn’t play basketball much at all anymore.
Today’s school systems should begin to focus more on the happiness and well being of the students they’re supposed to be teaching and less about their last names or how much money the school can make off of them. They should focus more on sports teaching good teamwork, responsibility, and fun and put less emphasis on sports being about winning, popularity and who you know.
If a child loses the one thing that is keeping them going… then what’s left for them to work for? Try reading Napoleon Hill think and grow rich to your child and see their progress.